The Question of Why

I've been rewatching Dawson's Creek (because I never sleep) and at one point, Pacey asks Joey about her bracelet - he says it's her; not showy or gaudy, but elegant. He also knows that it's her mother's bracelet, and he eventually says the line so many who watch the show remember: "I remember everything."

The line has always really stuck out to me, because isn't that something we wall want - someone who remembers the things important to us?

When we're young, our lives are this giant pie. We grow up, our lives become busy with other things - work, families, obligations, adulting in general - and each new aspect that enters our lives takes up a little bit more of the pie, leaving less and less time for each aspect of our lives.

And less and less time for people.

It becomes harder to be there for everyone; to devote the time and attention that each person we love deserves. For some people, that time and attention is words. For others, it's physicality. (There's five love languages - and it's important to know what yours is!)

I don't know if I've ever read anything more accurate than this. And my partner and I couldn't be more different on the ends of the spectrum we fall on this. And the oddest part is, except for a couple jerks, the biggest relationships I had were with partners who spoke the language I needed them to, until I met and got married to a man who didn't (although he has tried).

But part of knowing the answer to what love language you are is then speaking in the love language your partner prefers... which can be difficult. Time consuming. Frustrating.

Especially when you're short on time and patience.

So my curiosity now is, how many couples speak the same language? How many speak a different one? How many divorces happen because we just don't listen to each other? How do you find a way to grow back together after you've already grown so far apart?

Have you ever taken this test? What has it told you?